What is it about RSVPs? How did they fall out of favor? What happened to common courtesy of a reply to an invitation? Why are RSVPs so scarey to all of us?
When someone gets an invitation and the invitation specifically requests an RSVP - why do people just not respond? What is hard about saying "yes" or "no"?
You know you will run into them on the street someday and it will be an awkward few seconds and then they will say "oh hey... sorry I didn't um ya know.. get back to ya" ... and while they are stammering that out - you interrupt them and say "hey yeah man, I know... no problem"... but it IS a problem! I'm confused... think how much simpler it would be to just say "sorry can't make it" --- or "I'll be there" ? It certainly helps with the planning of an event.
I too have not RSVP'd to events and I always feel bad about that. So I have made it a personal goal of mine to always RSVP even if I say "maybe"!
I think there is something fearful in sending a response - - it locks you into an action!
I mean what if you said Yes - and then...something better came along?? Oh boy, now how do you have to get out of the commitment?
But what if you said No? You may not really want to go - but you don't want to say no YET. .because either you want to keep your options open in case something better doesn't come along, or you don't want to say NO to because you think the person inviting you is going to ask you why! Or maybe you don't want to hurt their feelings. So instead of saying no for fear of hurting their feelings - you ignore them. Hmmm.....
That's just frickin crazy! Just reply - Just say NO if you don't want to go! We are all adults and if we can't handle rejection by now, well... maybe we shouldn't be inviting anyone anywhere anyway! ;)
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